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BELOW ARE THE NOTES FROM ROB JOHNSON'S MESSAGE ON DATING AND PHYSICAL AFFECTION. IF YOU WOULD LIKE MORE INFORMATION, E-MAIL ROB AT: robjohnson@juno.com Dating and Physical Affection Who Should I Marry and How far Can We Go Before That? Foundation--3 personalized truths.This is why we trust and obey everything God says in the Bible. 1. God loves me and only wants the best for me. 2. God knows all about my situation. 3. God never makes mistakes. 1. Dating Why? Purpose--Everything we do should be done with a purpose. My dad said, “Dating is mating, not just socializing.” So dating helps us learn to relate to someone of the opposite sex , and dating is also a process of selecting a life partner . Always to build up the other person--spiritually and in other ways. Who? Don't date someone you would not marry. Only Christians . 1 Corinthians 7.39 2 Corinthians 6.14-16 Not liars or angry people . Sequence Friendship leads to dating leads to engagement leads to marriage You don't need to have somebody to be somebody. In high school, don't worry about dating. Have lots of friends. If you date, do most of it with others. Jeremiah 2.13; Psalm 36.8-9 Question : How do you know you've met the girl [or guy] God has for you? Answer: 1. You are both saved and seeking God. 2. You both have Christ-like character. 3. You agree about basic life goals. 4. You are attracted to each other. Don't trust other people's prophesies, dreams, or set-ups if you don't really like each other. 5. Other people--especially your parents and pastors--confirm your choice. Also remember--the right person is one thing, and the right time is a separate issue. The person may be right, but you still must ask when is the right time. Recommend “Finding the Love of Your Life” by Neil Clark Warren 2. Physical affection Our goal--purity--Matthew 5.8. Jesus said, “Happy are those whose hearts are pure, for they shall see God.” Foundational principle--Hebrews 13.4 God wants you to have a lifetime and eternity self-control and joy Satan wants you to have sporadic times of pleasure, and a lifetime and eternity of pain and destruction Question : If you don't have sex, how do you know if you are compatible before marriage? Answer: Compatibility is important in our spiritual life, personalities, character and goals. Sexual compatibility will always be possible for a couple who are compatible in the other areas. You don't need to try it out beforehand, it will work!! When you both enter marriage as virgins, you go to kindergarten together--have fun finger painting, etc., and keep on learning to pleasure each other for years and years. Why sex outside of marriage is less pleasurable than sex in marriage: --fear of being found out --fear of betrayal--either telling or being dumped --fear of getting pregnant --fear of STD's --guilt because of disobeying God --fear of hell, if you don't repent We need a godly understanding of our body--1 Corinthians 6.12-20 >My body is a member of Jesus Himself. Will I use Jesus' body parts for immorality? (15-16) >My body is a temple of the Holy Spirit. My body belongs to God, not to me. Everything I do with my body should bring honor to God. Question : How far can you go? Answer: Okay, assuming we know we can't have sexual intercourse, what is acceptable for a Christian couple to do? Matthew 18.7-9. It is sin to tempt others. Arousing ourselves or our date sexually is sin, because those desires cannot be satisfied righteously. Doing that is placing temptation, a stumbling block, before the other person, or before ourselves. So, the principle is: Never do anything that arouses you or your date sexually. If it arouses you, stop it! Here are some super-practical, absolute rules if you want to be pure. This is a minimum: Never! ...begin to undress, unbutton, or unzip ...lie down together ...touch each other under your clothes, anywhere on the body ...touch breasts or genitals, either over or under clothes I'm not saying that everything else is okay, just that these are absolutely out of bounds. Because of the “no tempting” rule Jesus gives us, mutual masturbation and oral sex are sin also, for any unmarried couple. Our goal is not “technical virginity”, or avoiding pregnancy and STD's. Our goal is purity. We want to see God. Act together so that even if you never marry, you can meet later without embarrassing memories. Act so that you won't be embarrassed to tell your future mate what you did with your dates. Guys: Consider yourselves protectors of your date's purity, not predators of her body. She doesn't “owe” you anything physically just because you took her out. Dating is not a licence to touch a girl, it is a responsibility to keep her pure. Girls: Watch how you dress. If it is sheer, see-through, snug, form-fitting, short on the bottom or low on the top--you are tempting guys. Don't fool yourself to think otherwise. Proverbs 7.10 indicates that there is a way that a prostitute dresses, to draw attention to her body, especially breasts and hips. You don't want to be in that category. Someone said, “Wear clothes you would want to meet Jesus in.” Fashion isn't always wrong, but immodesty is always wrong. If you have a question about some item of clothing, ask your dad if it is modest. If you are struggling in this area in your dating, talk to a mature Christian of the same sex, and become accountable. Conclusion: On a piece of paper, answer these questions: This is just between you and God. 1. What will be my purposes in dating? 2. Who will I date or not date? 3. What are my standards and boundaries for showing physical affection?
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